Difference between revisions of "Dealing with Death"
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Support for grieving families can take a variety of forms, too, from a simple personal expression of condolences from a group member to substantial commitment of time and resources to provide active support to family members. Where your organization falls in this continuum will likely be influenced by the severity of the condition and may be influenced by the cause of death. We don't mean to suggest that a car accident is less deserving of support for survivors than a death related directly to the condition your organization supports, but it's reasonable for your organization to make decisions about how much effort it is able, fairly, to offer in this area. | Support for grieving families can take a variety of forms, too, from a simple personal expression of condolences from a group member to substantial commitment of time and resources to provide active support to family members. Where your organization falls in this continuum will likely be influenced by the severity of the condition and may be influenced by the cause of death. We don't mean to suggest that a car accident is less deserving of support for survivors than a death related directly to the condition your organization supports, but it's reasonable for your organization to make decisions about how much effort it is able, fairly, to offer in this area. | ||
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| + | "With OAA, the death of one of our affected kids or adults is put out on our list serve, Facebook page, and website. We also have a memorial page on the website with photos of the deceased and a little caption about the person. At our conferences every two years, we have a photo montage to music that is shown at the end to remember all those who have passed away. It helps keep their memories alive and is a beautiful tribute." | ||
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| + | Valuable resources on this topic include the following: | ||
Partnership for Families: [http://partnershipforparents.net/] | Partnership for Families: [http://partnershipforparents.net/] | ||
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:CFC Family Network, Inc | :CFC Family Network, Inc | ||
| − | We have had a few deaths in our group, and I usually send out a card from the organization as well as a special book that helped me when my own younger brother died. We find that the families are very appreciative to have an article on their child along with a photo in the next newsletter. The parents have all been involved with writing the tribute on their child. We always include the deceased families in our Parent Directory, and at our very first International Conference two of the families did attend! | + | "We have had a few deaths in our group, and I usually send out a card from the organization as well as a special book that helped me when my own younger brother died. We find that the families are very appreciative to have an article on their child along with a photo in the next newsletter. The parents have all been involved with writing the tribute on their child. We always include the deceased families in our Parent Directory, and at our very first International Conference two of the families did attend! |
The one mom in our organization who has lost her only child to complications from CFC syndrome has worked through her grieving process by selling Silver Pins in honor of all children with disabilities. She has made up a nice business card that goes with the pin and explains how the money will go to assist children born with CFC syndrome. This mom has also volunteered to become editor of our newsletter. The other three families that have had deaths remain in touch, but are not so involved with the organization or Family mailing list. | The one mom in our organization who has lost her only child to complications from CFC syndrome has worked through her grieving process by selling Silver Pins in honor of all children with disabilities. She has made up a nice business card that goes with the pin and explains how the money will go to assist children born with CFC syndrome. This mom has also volunteered to become editor of our newsletter. The other three families that have had deaths remain in touch, but are not so involved with the organization or Family mailing list. | ||
Revision as of 19:57, 31 October 2014
Organizations often struggle with how to provide for families who have lost a loved one to the condition and still offer hope to the families who are struggling to hang on to hope. Though not as dramatic, the same tension is felt by many organizations when the newly diagnosed hope for a mild course of the condition and the veterans need support because of the severe changes in their lives. These losses require a delicate touch. Advocacy organizations are often able to draw on their members' experiences and provide both kinds of support and the continuum in between.
Whether your organization supports a genetic condition that leads to early death or does not have any impact on life expectancy, you may wish to consider two aspects of preparing for the death of a member: acknowledgment of the passage and support opportunities for family members. Although few of us are enthusiastic about creating procedures for this type of event, having a procedure or policy in place can give a comforting sense of knowing, at least, what to do next.
Acknowledgment of death can take two primary forms: immediate responses on the part of the organization (such as a card or gift to the family) and/or memorial activity in a public forum, perhaps at a regularly held meeting or as an announcement in your organization's newsletter.
Support for grieving families can take a variety of forms, too, from a simple personal expression of condolences from a group member to substantial commitment of time and resources to provide active support to family members. Where your organization falls in this continuum will likely be influenced by the severity of the condition and may be influenced by the cause of death. We don't mean to suggest that a car accident is less deserving of support for survivors than a death related directly to the condition your organization supports, but it's reasonable for your organization to make decisions about how much effort it is able, fairly, to offer in this area.
Here is an example of what one organization does:
- Jana Monaco
- Organic Acidemia Association (OAA)
"With OAA, the death of one of our affected kids or adults is put out on our list serve, Facebook page, and website. We also have a memorial page on the website with photos of the deceased and a little caption about the person. At our conferences every two years, we have a photo montage to music that is shown at the end to remember all those who have passed away. It helps keep their memories alive and is a beautiful tribute."
Valuable resources on this topic include the following:
Partnership for Families: [1]
Padres con Padres: [2]
Supporting our Members During the Loss of a Loved One
- Brenda Conger, Director
- CFC Family Network, Inc
"We have had a few deaths in our group, and I usually send out a card from the organization as well as a special book that helped me when my own younger brother died. We find that the families are very appreciative to have an article on their child along with a photo in the next newsletter. The parents have all been involved with writing the tribute on their child. We always include the deceased families in our Parent Directory, and at our very first International Conference two of the families did attend!
The one mom in our organization who has lost her only child to complications from CFC syndrome has worked through her grieving process by selling Silver Pins in honor of all children with disabilities. She has made up a nice business card that goes with the pin and explains how the money will go to assist children born with CFC syndrome. This mom has also volunteered to become editor of our newsletter. The other three families that have had deaths remain in touch, but are not so involved with the organization or Family mailing list.
I had the conference dedicated to those that have passed over to the other side and had a tribute page with their photos in our conference program."
